Being a fat woman, I’ve expert the extreme shallowness that exists in our society. I’m speaking from years of experience and believe me when I say, I’m fat. I often mention that I’m fat to my students and they will often reply, “You’re not fat”! I laugh because I know I’m fat and that’s ok. If you’re thinking why I haven’t done anything about it, I have! Unless you’ve been fat before, 50 or more pounds overweight, you don’t have a clue how difficult it is to lose that much weight. I’ve lost 100 pounds before, but due to a stress filled life and being a stress eater, I obtained it back plus more. Just because I’m fat doesn’t mean that I’m totally unpleasant, at least not in my eyes! I’ve been told many times, “you’re pretty”. Yes, I know I have a pretty face and yes I always take care of myself by waxing, getting pedicures, and manicures, etc. This doesn’t change the fact that according to our society, “fat means you are ugly”!
Men certainly do not find fat women appealing. The excuse I always hear is that they are visual creatures. I know because I’ve heard this my entire life! Then men wonder why they can’t find a nice girl who will be their confidante or best friend and more! You can’t find someone like that if you are constantly basing a woman first on her weight! Give the fat girls a chance!!! We may have extra support, but we can do anything else like the skinny or average woman! Maybe even better!
I don’t want to generalize fat or thin women, but I find that fat women often have more of a gratitude for food. Go figure! Most men also have an admiration for food. What’s that saying, “the fastest way to a man’s heart is through his stomach”? I think this is true. Every man I’ve dated valued my amazing baking and cooking skills and if you asked them what they missed about me, they would probably first say, “her tacos and burritos”. Well, you would think maybe this would keep them, but sometimes life doesn’t turn out the way you want it to turn out.
All I know is men need to change their belief of fat women and give us a chance. Men need to stop being so obsessed with looks and dig deeper into who a person is. I recently joined an online dating site and so far all I’ve attracted is men my father’s age or older. Yuck, I think it is gross to date someone my father’s age! I think you are much more suitable with someone your age or within a few years. Maybe that’s my shallowness rearing its’ ugly head! Anyway, this online dating problem proves to me that men just don’t like fat women.
Just to prove this theory of mine, I published pictures of myself when I was not so fat. The elephant in the room is the statement I make in the “What are your personal goals” section. I state that I’m overweight and one of my personal goals is to lose weight and get healthy. This is what men read and then they run!!!! If you’re a man, stop acting as if you’ve never done this. Face the truth and stop blinding yourself. You are shallow!
To make things worse, the site I joined is a Christian dating site and I thought Christian men would be less shallow. Goes to show you being a Christian doesn’t change people’s shallowness. This is quite gloomy to me, being a Christian. I have to mention that I did get a man who wasn’t my father’s age send me some instant messages! Yes, I thought, someone is serious in me for more than my looks. Go figure the guy was a finish weirdo! I think the solution to meeting a man is to either lose weight or give up on men and become a nun or lesbian! Just kidding! I love men!!!