Trust is one of the most important substances and the base of an effective relationship. Lack of it can cause serious problems and is actually the most common purpose why relationships end.
Trust is something that must be earned and managed with action, not just words. Without it relationship is like a house without a base – shaky at best.
Restoring trust can be difficult. In practical sense trust means that you place guarantee in someone to be honest with you, to keep promises, to not take benefits of you, to not lie, cheat or steal from you. It’s the glue of the relationship. To lose it generally means a lot of pain, confusion, anger, and sadness.
If you lose trust, you will put a query mark in front of everything your partner says or does. And vice versa. So what do we do if we don’t want to end the relationship? How do we earn trust and be trustful again?
• Be honest
• Take liability for your own actions and decisions
• Talk, connect, and listen. Unanswered questions and doubts can linger on for years
• Say what you are going to do and do what you say
• Give trust back
• Let go of the past. Learn to stop dragging the past into the present
• Give it time, don’t expect an overnight change
Restoring trust will take time, it won’t happen overnight. But investing in strengthening and keeping your partnership will result in mutual respect and connectedness built on the foundation of trust. So it’s worth it.
All you need is honesty, love, absolution, patience, dedication and a lot of time. No one said it’s going to be easy.