Take a chocolate from a child and they’ll scream the house down… and the same pain goes deep into the heart of a human being when anything they thought they loved gets wrenched out of their arms too.
I say “thought they loved” because if there’s discomfort in losing something it’s a clear sign that love wasn’t at the heart of the powerful, need was.
Addiction to cocaine is a well known pain and drawback is awful (so I’m told) that addiction is absolutely identical to the cause of pain.
When a person eats too much and becomes obese is the problem the food they eat or is the actual problem what needs they are having met by food?
Without doubt food is an enticement but if caring, self love, self respect and belief in us is furnished through the temporary satisfaction of eating a hamburger, don’t blame the food giant. Deal with the cause.
The key is to list down what nourishment you are/were getting from that source of pain… the craving… and then replace it with another source… usually a source more healthy, more on purpose, more linked to your values… this is, in most cases really easy and the more you do it, the faster the pain goes away.
There’s a link between dopamine (happy body chemical) and the root source of fulfillment. If we lose dopamine triggers from everyday life we then gravitate down to sex, food, drugs, liquor, sport, greed and spiritual techniques. These are not wrong it’s just that they produce dopamine but lead us off track from the soul purpose of our life. The pain of regret outweighs the pain of discipline and yet, the lack of dopamine leads to the feeling of depression. Nobody enjoys that feeling…
Dopamine is the feel good drug the body produces… it is triggered most when a person’s maximum values are met… The trouble is that there are two sides to everything and although we might think our values are being met by one organization (like a boyfriend and winning lotto) there’s a counter balance to that association we also have to deal with. A boyfriend might occupy time, have different ideas, be rude or dirty and suddenly there’s dopamine sometimes and no dopamine (depression) at others. This creates head whirl.