One of the toughest things a lot of guys find with conference women is the preliminary strategy. Some guys are just naturals at it. Other people are just so intoxicated at the time they don’t care about being rejected. But the greater part of men don’t find splitting the ice all that easy. Ideas of rejection pop into their heads. What will I say? How will she respond?

Approaching women, just like with approaching anyone in daily life, takes a degree of assurance and practice.

It’s kind of like getting a sales job, particularly if you are just hoping to pick up women gently and not for anything long term. Just like with sales, in this scenario you aren’t that individually involved simply because you have the attitude that it doesn’t really matter if you get refused or not. You will just move on to the next choice.

Good sales agents, ones that have the capability to divorce their feelings from the sale and can quickly deflect rejection without it disturbing their assurance and rhythm, know that for every being rejected they get, they are one step closer to ending a deal. It’s the law of earnings. Numbers games. Sales are simply a figures game, and so are hitting on women.

In order to be more effective with picking up women and to make the preliminary approach easier and smooth, you need to practice getting outside your relaxation zone until it turns into second nature.

Before significantly exercising on the women you want to meet, just step out a little and start to exercise on people you meet in everyday life. Men and women. Every time you project into a store, try striking up a brief discussion with the person behind the counter. It doesn’t matter what the discussion is about. Just ask a few common questions and engage them in small talk. This is great exercise without any stress on you at all.

Even if you currently have a job, consider taking on a part-time sales job or telesales job after hours. Just for a month or so. Sales jobs are excellent for educating you how to break the ice with people as well as building the skill to approach total strangers without doubt and hesitation. And it gives you that all essential ability to be able to take negativity in your stride and move easily onto the next target with no dent to your confidence.

The base line is: It’s all about being so practiced at it that you are extremely confident no matter what.