We all know that communication in a long distance relationship is vital. But how do you manage to have an effective communication with your girlfriend, so that it doesn’t seem needy, boring or unsightly? In this article you’ll discover 7 golden rules of texting that you can use in your text connections to avoid clinginess and become more appealing to your girlfriend.
1. Rule of reciprocity
In a long distance relationship guys can easily fall in the neediness trap by spamming their girlfriends with a lot of text messages. And in my expertise, neediness is one of the biggest killers of attraction in a relationship, particularly if it comes from a man.
If you are the one that sends her more texts than she sends you, then make sure to either cut down from the number of texts that you send her daily and/or inspire her to send you more texts.
2. Send and forget!
It happens very often that we send them a text message and then we keep checking our phone every 5 minutes for the next 3 hours, even though there’s no sound that says “you’ve got message”. We still check our phone to see if “maybe” you didn’t hear the sound, or “maybe” the phone is broken, or “maybe” she sent you a text while you were in the toilet, etc.
I have tried many ways to solve this issue, but the best one that has been working form me for the past 2 years already, is the following: 1. Write the text; 2. Send it; 3. Forget about it.
My point here is that you don’t write texts in order to get back a reply. You write a text because you want to tell her something, and THAT’S IT. You don’t care if she’ll answer you back or not, it’s her problem. Also try not to ask questions – make your text more like affirmations rather than questions.
3. The Tennis Rule
Texting is a great way to stay on the top of her mind during the day, but you have to avoid sending her too many texts and looking needy. You want to be sending her one text, and then letting her text you back before you send her another text. This way you throw the ball in her field and wait for her to throw the ball back. And of course you use the “Send and Forget” rule to avoid freaking out.
4. Use diversity.
What I mean by “using diversity”, is that you want to be sending her different types of texts, instead of the same old “love texts” that you’ve been sending her for the past 2 months. For example you could be sending her sexy texts, funny text, teasing texts, strange text, updates about your activities etc. so that you keep things more diverse, thus avoiding of a routine and making your text communication more fun. Also try to be a bit more natural about texting by sending her texts at different times of the day, instead of a text around the same time every day.
5. Tease her.
So, teasing is using a playful vibe in your text communication. It could be making her a enhance and then taking it away, like “You’re a very smart girl… Sometimes!”, or it could be something like “Really? You miss me, baby?… I understand you so well, I’d miss myself too if I were you.”
6. The 15 Minutes Rule
Don’t be too eager to answer her texts back, but wait a few minutes before doing that. It could be after 10 – 15 – 30 minutes, and even a few hours later sometimes.
Of course you don’t want to make a habit out of this, but doing that 50% of times will make you more appealing to her. And there are two reasons for that: 1) now she’ll be the one to be waiting for your texts, thus very excited about receiving them. 2) You won’t look needy.
7. Never have text fights!
Texts are a very impersonal way of communication, and can be very easily confusing. If you’re having a tense communication while texting each other then better postpone the communication until you’ll be able to talk on the phone, or even better on Skype. We all know that communication in a long distance relationship is vital. But how do you manage to have an effective communication with your girlfriend, so that it doesn’t seem needy, boring or unsightly? In this article you’ll discover 7 golden rules of texting that you can use in your text connections to avoid clinginess and become more appealing to your girlfriend.