You were not meant to be in a relationship with just anybody that comes along in your life. We actually end up grieving over this person who was only passing through our lives for a while. Perhaps this person who was moving through reason was to teach you a valuable lesson. And that lesson may have been to love and respect yourself and love and respect others in the process. Whatever the lesson could be that you are supposed to learn, it will help you mature and be ready for your soulmate in the future.

You know what went wrong with your ex boyfriends or girlfriends and you know now that the same mistake won’t be made again in the next relationship. Some of us are so mesmerized by physical features. Maybe you are madly in love with this guy because he has muscles that turn you on or his eyes are to die for. You overlook the fact that this man is abusive and you will die by his hands some day if you don’t wake up and exit this relationship. You might feel that if you leave this man that you will never find another man again, so you stick it out in this abusive relationship. You’ve told everyone this man is definitely your soulmate sent by God. Needless to say, in reality God will not send you a mate that will use you as a punching bag. God does not want you with a man who is cursing you out like a drinking sailor every chance he gets.

When God created you, he created a woman who should be treated like a queen by the right man. And you should realize that any time love hurts, it isn’t right for you. Pain always signifies that something is wrong. You should feel on top of the world when you are in a relationship with someone, you should be respected, valued, loved and cared for; and a soulmate is the only one who can do this for you. It should be mutual where you are returning the same thing back to your soulmate. Being ready for a soulmate means that you are emotionally, physically and spiritually ready to be with the love of your life. You wouldn’t give a 12 year old a driver’s license and send him or her out on the highway. That 12 year old is not mature enough to know the laws of the road and how to stay safe. This kid would be hurt out there without this adulthood. This holds true with being prepared to be with a soulmate. We must be ready in order for it to succeed and for us to be truly happy with our mate.

To discover you have a soulmate is to realize you like this woman even though she is 50lbs overweight and wears dentures. You have to know you have a religious connection that blinds you from seeing someone’s physical flaws, there character and goodness of their heart draws you nearer to them. You see God in them and you want more and more of them. They see the same in you and they want more and more of you. This is when you know for sure you’ve found your one and only soulmate. You’ve always dreamt of sitting on your front porch swing at 90 years old holding the hand of your soulmate who you’ve been married to for 60 years and counting, and still see fireworks everytime you kiss him or her. Maybe you are in a dead end relationship right now with someone and you are angry at God because you wanted this person to have been your soulmate and it isn’t working out.

God does not force us to be with anyone, we have free will and it just so happened you went into the raunchiest bar in town and met this jerk. You didn’t listen to your gut instinct which it was actually God telling you to be cautious and think before getting involved with this man. Your soulmate is out there, he is not going to be easily revealed to you until that time is at hand. That maturity has to come into play first and it has to be as well lined up with your soulmate. I am someone who believes that people have bonded with each other before they were born. I believe that this bond is through Christ. And that we will meet everybody we will know on earth when the time is right. I believe that we will also meet people that mean us no good. However, some of us get stuck with someone we thought was our soulmate because we settled. It is our destiny at an hired time that we will meet our soulmates only if we have not become content with the mates that we have settled for out of comfort or because we don’t want to be lonely.

Your soulmate has a right to be happy and move on even if you’ve given up on looking for him or her. I was blessed to have received a vision from God one afternoon before I took a nap. This vision was very vibrant and it felt real. I was laying on my right side in bed, I was drifting to sleep a little and would wake up everytime I close my eyes. I had a vision where I was standing at an alter getting married. There was a handsome man standing next to me wearing a tux. Finally I fell asleep and the vision went into a dream where we were at the reception after the vows were traded. We were under a big lighted tent with all of our relatives and friends. This is a man I’ve never seen before or knew if he existed, but I believe that God has sent me this vision for a reason and that reason is to be ready because my soulmate is about to come into my life. I also had a breakup with a boyfriend right before I had this vision.

I was very troubled and I know that was God’s way of easing me on the issue of moving on. He wanted me to know that I had something to move on to, and so do you. You can read of my experience about my idea and dreams in my book “In Due Season,” this book will also make a great Xmas gift for anyone who is grieving the loss of a loved one, wanting to hear the voice of God, see his beautiful angels or someone worried about their future love life. This book touches on many subjects; it is a powerful 72 page book that will touch your hearts. Enjoy it!