When you’re lonely and struggling, but not alone
When you said “I do,” you thought you were choosing to a lifetime of synergy, shared experiences, and mutual support. Today, you’re wondering what happened.
If you’re a woman, you may think, “We never talk anymore. And why can’t he take out the trash once in a while?”
If you’re a man, you wonder what happened to that fun woman you once knew. All she seems to do these days is complain and criticize!

By the time you’re searching the Internet for solutions, you’ve already begun dreaming about dividing up and enjoying a single life where you’re liable for yourself, and to yourself. But don’t give up until you’ve read this article!

Power Struggles
In the beginning, you felt like you meshed naturally and without effort. You liked what he liked. She had the same pet peeves that you did. Now, it feels like cooperation is impossible. You both complain that the other’s trying to change you and can’t accept you as you are. Passive-aggressiveness may rear its ugly head – sure, you agreed to do the dishes, but you’ll do a poor job of it so she won’t ask you again, dadgummit!

Absence
Sometimes physical splitting can create anxieties that sabotage relationship. Whether one of you is attending school, deployed for the military, or working away from home for an extended period of time, long distance relationships face unique challenges. The person left behind may be forced to assume duties that were once handled by their absent partner in addition to their normal duties. When their loved one returns, they may not be ready to relinquish some of those duties entirely. To make matters worse, their own doubts about the relationship may surface, and either of them may wonder if their partner’s cheating. The worst case scenario happens when one does cheat. Infidelity is a deep betrayal that leaves scars for a long, long, time. Some couples may recover, while others never will.

Lack of Bonding
When our relationship or wedding has been rushed, we might not have had a chance to build a deep, sustained friendship with our partner. The best relationships have a deep sense of friendship that’s known by mutual respect, trust, and admiration. Boredom and doubt can weaken a relationship faster than we can say, “I love you.”

Addiction
When one or both of the people in a relationship have an alcohol or drug habit, life becomes a chaotic roller coaster. The good times are really, really good, but the bad ones are downright stressful. Often, people in violent relationships are ashamed to talk honestly and openly to other family members or friends about their problems because they’re afraid of critique and feel ashamed. They feel forced to maintain an acceptable image. “What goes on here should stay here” is their mantra, and it can lead to a very lonely life.