This is an easy 3 move process to assist you suffering from forgiveness. The first step to forgiveness is to take accountability. I know, you may be saying, “I didn’t do anything wrong. I didn’t ask for this event to happen to me. I’m not the problem, the other person is. Why must I take on this burden?”

It’s a shitty hand you’ve been dealt. But running away from it will not change it. Take responsibility that you have been holding onto the guilt, the pain, the hatred, resentment and all the negative emotions around the event. An event so traumatic, when triggered, stirs up feelings that play in our head over in your head and you end up re-living that encounter.

As long as you continue to avoid working with the emotions controlling you, you will remain a victim to that event. The person that offended you may not even be alive any more. They could be on the beach getting the time of their life while to sit around holding on to all this pain. Forgive yourself. Forgiveness is for you not the other person. Let go of the pain and allow love, pleasure, and acceptance in your heart.

The 2nd step to forgiveness is “choose again.” You choose to hold on to the guilt, pain, harm, and struggling. You decided to hold on to all that hatred, spite, vindication, discomfort, and fault. Make a decision to choose thoughts and actions that bring you closer to experiencing the joy, enjoyment and well-being you were meant to be.

Here’s an analogy. Picture an hour glass. There’s sand at the top and sand at the base. The sand in the bottom symbolizes your past. The sand at the top represents your future. And that little bit of sand in the center is now. Since you do not know how much time we have on top, your future, and the past is gone, all the time we have is right now.

Now is all the time we have. Now is when everything happens. So now is the best time, the right time, the only time! Now it’s time to trust in yourself, take advantage of the most essential time in your life and choose again. Now it’s time to decide to be free of those limiting beliefs and find out that you were meant to be. Now it’s time to take control of your life, be satisfied and experience the security and independence you deserve.

The 3rd step to forgiveness is to ask for guidance. Find a mentor, a coach, or religious leader you can trust and ask for assistance. Surround yourself with people that increase and challenge you. Become a part of a mastermind group that assists you in stepping outside your comfort zone so you can encounter the best life has to offer.