For some couples, this is an easy issue. Exploding with the exciting news, you both tell your families instantly, they wish you well, and everyone starts happily preparing for the marriage. Most families will be excited, but for some couples it can be more challenging. Some parents get much connected to their children and react poorly when they recognize their children are getting married and maybe even moving out of town. Other parents don’t accept of the choice of partner or how soon their child is planning on getting wedded.

Of course, in circumstances like this, what the parents fail to accept is that their child is indeed no longer a child, but a grown adult who wants to start a brand new life with somebody unique. If you and your partner feel nervous about nearing your parents with the news, remember that this is your choice, and you and your partner will be the ones who wake up every morning with that choice for the rest of your lives-not your mother and father. Even if your parents disapprove, that continues to be true. Many families will come around gradually. Others never will. But what you can’t do is base your life around your family’s anticipation or you never will grow up or be happy.

If you do feel anxious, you can try and make your family relaxed prior to you break the news to them. Many couples have their families over to dinner, and after they are comfortable, warm, and well fed, they tell them their decision. Many people take surprising news better on a full stomach!
How soon should you tell your family members prior to you plan to get wedded? This is completely up to you, but your family will want a lot of notice if they plan to help you with wedding! They may also manage it all better if they have more time to get used to the idea before you basically get married.

Should you tell your families as a stand alone or jointly? This depends on the personalities involved, but generally speaking you will probably find it easier to do it separately. That way your families don’t get twisted up in each others’ reactions. This is going to be awkward enough after all, so why make it more awkward by telling everybody at once.